After Surgery
After surgery
Start small. Go slow.
Bodies change during transition and after surgery, and so does what feels good. These are practical starting points, not rules.
- After surgery: wait until your surgeon clears you, then start small, soft and slow with plenty of water-based lube.
- With growth on testosterone: small external vibrators, suction toys and grind pads tend to fit well.
- If you have both, or aren’t sure: look for internal, external or both, and compare sizes with something you already use.
- Every time: water-based lube, clean before and after, and stop if anything hurts.
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Questions
When can I use toys after bottom surgery?
Only once your surgeon clears you. Your care team knows your timeline best, so ask them anything.
What should I start with after vaginoplasty or phalloplasty?
Something small and soft, used slowly with plenty of water-based lube, once you are cleared. External toys like a grind pad or a small vibe are an easy first step.
What works with growth on testosterone?
Small external vibrators, suction toys and grind pads. Go by size and shape, not the label on the box.
What lube should I use?
Water-based lube works with every material, including silicone.
What if something hurts?
Stop. Go smaller, go slower, and check with your care team if it continues.